Importance of Balance in our lives

Achieving balance is something we discuss often at New Leaf Natural Therapies.  So many of the issues our client’s struggle with, be it physical, emotional and mental are related to their lives, bodies and feelings, being destabilized.  The word “disease” is a literal translation to the state of being that the body is in “dis – ease”, and ailments and illnesses can originate from the mind, body, spirit being out of balance.  All of the services we provide are working towards helping our clients find health, harmony and balance in their lives.

 I found the following article by Jasmine Tanjeloff a psychotherapist that gives some simple steps to start to bring grounding and balance into your life.

 “Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.” ~Thomas Merton

To start, what does it mean to be balanced?

To me, it means that you have a handle on all the various elements in your life and don’t feel that your heart or mind is being pulled too hard in any direction. More often than not, you feel calm, grounded, clear-headed, and motivated.

How do you find your balance?

The elements in life that require the most balancing can be divided into two categories: internal and external. Oftentimes, people focus on one more than the other.

For example, you may find that you focus on external things, like work, relationships, and activities, and that you pay very little attention to what is going on inside your heart and mind.

On the other hand, you may find that you spend so much time being self reflective that you sometimes miss out on the experience of living.

Internal (Mind, Heart, Health)

  • Mind: Challenging yourself intellectually vs. creating opportunities for your mind to rest
  • Heart: Giving love vs. receiving love
  • Health: Eating, drinking, exercising properly vs. resting and treating yourself to some extra yummies

External (Work, Social, Family, Fun)

  • Work: Pushing yourself to achieve goals vs. seeing the bigger picture and enjoying the ride
  • Social: Satisfying your social desires vs. taking time for yourself
  • Family: Fulfilling your familial responsibilities vs. creating healthy boundaries
  • Fun: Allocating time for things you enjoy doing vs. making sure you don’t overdo it

As you can see, both ends of each spectrum are actually positive; but if either side is taken to an extreme, something that is intended to be positive can end up being detrimental.

 If you feel pulled in any one direction and uneasy about it, these steps may help you get your life aligned:

1. Acknowledge. – Take some time to really look at your life, your state of mind, and how you’re feeling. Be honest with yourself and notice the areas of your life that you’re neglecting.

2. Examine. – Notice if you’re leaning more toward an internal or external focus, or if there are areas within each category that you would like to be more balanced.

3. Set Goals. – Look at the outline to help you decide which ways you want to balance your life. Make a list.

4. Plan Tasks. – Make a list of daily, weekly, and monthly tasks that you will need to do to achieve each of these goals. What have you tried in the past? Did it work? If not, what can you do differently?

5. Reflect. – What is the most important thing you’ve accomplished in the past? How did you stay focused toward this goal? How did you handle your fears, doubts, anxieties, worries, and negative self-talk? How does it feel to know that you accomplished the goal in spite of these parts of yourself?

6. Prepare. – What is your inner “stuff” that will try to keep you from sticking to your plan (fears, worries, doubts, negative self-talk)? Can you specify the things you will say to yourself to push you off track? (For example: “Just one more bite, I’ll start eating better tomorrow”) Make a list.

7. Empower. – What do you need to remember in those times? What are things you can say to that self-sabotaging part of yourself? Be kind to yourself. Balance won’t feel good if you’re cruel to yourself in creating it!

8. Connect. – Is there a person or a tactic you can use to keep yourself supported, motivated, and focused in those hard times? I highly recommend connecting and sharing your inner process with someone. Find someone who can help you challenge your inner demons, and celebrate your little accomplishments.

9. Plan. – Just like accomplishing any goal in life, it takes time and effort to overcome your habitual patterns and create new ones. If you stay on track with this detailed and intentional process for three whole months, then there is a good chance you will create new habits to enjoy a more balanced life going forward!

 Theses nine steps are a great starting point but the support of knowledgeable practitioners is a vital element in finding the answers and moving forward.  Sessions of Kinesiology, Reiki, Reflexology, Chi Nei Tsang/Remedial Massage and Naturopathy can help with self sabotage and survival patterns, reducing stress, nutritional support as well as creating a plan to move forward.

At New Leaf we can offer Kinesiology (Georgia, Madonna), Reiki (Gabby), Reflexology (Carole) as well as Remedial/CNT Massage (Reenee-Jee, Carole) and Naturopathy (Georgia, Madonna) to help you to develop and maintain balance and harmony for your health and wellbeing.

Give Annette a call on 3348 6098 to find out about the specials on offer to get you started or help continue your journey.

All the best

Gabby Graham

Reiki Practitioner/Energy Worker

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